Sunday, August 23, 2020

Perfectionism, self criticism, and fear of failure


In counseling, it’s very common for us to see folks with these 3 traits and often together. 

1 Have “unrelenting standards” aka perfectionism

2 Self critical and self punitive

3 Fear of failure. 

This is of course a perfect “storm” for stress. We have such high standards that we cannot reach, then self criticize, and then avoid failures and hence, cannot achieve. It’s a vicious cycle. 

If we can change self critical to self reflection/self compassion along with defusing/changing our beliefs around failures, then we may NOT have to lower our standards and succeed. 



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