Monday, February 18, 2013

How to connect again in your relationship?

When your relationship is becoming problematic, and you are "growing apart", one of the most important way to fix this is to learn how to "connect" again.

One of the books that I often recommend, is the 5 love languages by Dr Gary Chapman.  You can often find it in your local book store or library.  Essentially, it is the "language of connection".  If you want to connect with someone, and build a good foundation for your relationship, you need to do the following:

1 Spending quality time with each other.  Be present for one another.
2 Acts of service by doing things for each other.
3 Physical touch ie hugging, kissing or holding hands.
4 Word of affirmation ie telling how much you appreciate each other or complementing your partner.
5 Gift giving e.g. flowers.

Now if you can reflect on when you first dated each other, how much of the above did you do?  Now reflect on now, how much are you doing?  Knowing this, will hopefully guide you towards a positive change.

You can find out what your predominant love language is by following this link and complete a short survey.

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