When we overreact to something, it maybe worthwhile to step back, reflect, and ask, "Why did I react this way?"
"What is the belief that I have that makes me react this way?"
For example, one may feel extremely nervous about meeting new people.
If we ask ourselves, "What is the belief that I have that makes me feel this way?", then there maybe a number of possible answers.
If my belief is that I am better than everyone, would I have this reaction? Probably not...
If I believe that I am good enough because I am learning from my mistakes and growing as a person, then will I still react that way? Probably not....
If I believe that I am not good enough and people don't like me, then will I react this way? Yes
Sometimes, the belief that I am not good enough, coupled with anxiety and fear, can lead to a fear of being judged, and the fear of not being good enough. This is a common problem in our society.
The good news is, once we know our unhelpful beliefs, we then defuse from it or change it.
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