Sunday, February 12, 2012

A black or white thinking style.....Helpful or not helpful?

If you have a "black or white" thinking style, things are either right or wrong, true or false, good or bad, and there are no greys.  This may create friction or frustration in your life especially in a world of shades of grey. Of course, this style of thinking can be very good, particularly when we are in complete control of our environment. However, this may not be the case for many.

Remember what was "true" in the past, may not be "true" anymore.  For example, the masses believed that the world was flat.  It is not anymore.  So what is believed as "true" today, may not be "true" tomorrow.

Being aware of this, will at least help us to open our minds to more possibilities, and importantly, more flexible in our way of thinking to allow us to have more psychological flexibility.  This will assist us to be more adaptable.

So what is an alternative to "black or white" thinking?

Asking whether something is helpful or not, is sometimes more useful than thinking whether something is true or false, or right or wrong.